August Birthday :: Tiered dress & Braided hair

by wendy

Happy Monday everyone and hope you had a great weekend!

This dress (also love this tiered dress) is very regal.  The high ruffle neckline, pleated layers, floor-sweeping hem, and height lengthening silhouette… a combination of grace and sophistication with loads of incredible movement.  Special occasion piece, check.  Outdoor summer/autumn dinner party dress, check.  An elegant choice for bridesmaids, I can definitely see that!

So… I have this fear of revealing my age.  Someone once told me that the entertainment industry is ageism (which is true) so letting people know my age will lessen my chances of working with some brands, growing my business, etc.  I can understand why he grouped me in the ‘entertainment industry’ category, this was before there was a ‘content creator/blogger industry’ category.  Thank goodness I’m not in the entertainment industry!  And I just feel lighter saying this… I’m turning 35 today!  And to be honest, I love love my thirties.  I remembered very clearly when I turned 30… it was like a lightbulb went off and I became laser focus and more grounded.  And with each passing year, it gets better and better.  For those who are reading this and think… 30’s equals extinction… don’t worry, you’re right.  What’s no longer in existence is your patience in dealing with nonsense.

Birthdays (and Thanksgiving?) are great reflection check points and I’ve learned so many powerful life lessons in my thirties and hope to learn more with each passing year.  A few lessons I’ve learned:

  1. Fashion – dress what flatters your body shape, not your age.  It doesn’t matter if you’re 20 or 40… you have great legs, show them off with shorts or skirts (I love adding contrast to the mini/short hem length by pairing them with long sleeve tailored pieces like a fitted blazer or light trench).
  2. Career – my mentor said this to me… always do things when you’re 80% ready or almost ready (as oppose to being 100% ready).  The fear of the unknown is so great that the thought of seeking reassurance in being completely ready for something is very comforting.  But seeking 100% readiness can be paralyzing, thus holding us back from actually completing the action/task.  And she said… someday is not part of the week.  Just put your head down, shoulder to the wheel, and jump at almost ready.
  3. Womanhood – My girlfriends and I joke about this a lot… when we were in our twenties, we tried so hard not to get pregnant.  Now in our thirties, we want to but can’t.  I’m not currently family planning or anything, but one of the biggest regrets is not freezing my eggs when I was in my late twenties.  One, I was very career focus at that time.  Two, I didn’t have money.  Three, the thought of family building was the last thing on my mind.  Looking back, I should have saved and looked into this.  I’d love to have the option of starting a family one day, and the older I get, the opportunity to have children dramatically decreases.  And seeing so many of my girlfriends trying and not succeeding, this option is turning into an honor.  If you’re in your late twenties, I highly recommend looking into this.  Just something to consider.
  4. Love – To all those who are in love, have a love-hate relationship with love, have loved and lost, have a complicated love, and have her love taken for granted… To every woman, my heart cheers and aches with you.
  5. Family – Family is something you can build and not defined by the one you are born into.

Time flies right?  THANK YOU for being on this journey with me.  Thank you for all of your love, support, and encouragement.  Words can not express how thankful I am.  As always, thank you so much for reading!

:: Outfit ::

Dress :: True Decadence (under $90)
Shoes :: Aquazzura (similar Steve Madden, under $70)
Bag :: Bottega Veneta
Accessories :: H&M braided headband | gold cuff